I recently had a delightful opportunity come my way: design a retrospective focused on empathy to help the “Left Brains” and the “Right Brains” on a team figure out why they were having so much trouble communicating effectively.
The problem had emerged as feelings of frustration by both “sides” over the course of several development iterations that were part of a new release. And the more standard retro’s in my toolbox were just not producing action items that helped the team improve their situation.
The left brain thinkers continued to be their verbal and analytical selves. And if you hadn’t already guessed it, this group was the platform developers, the engineers. The folks writing the code. Their approach was to process information in an analytical and sequential way, looking first at the pieces, then putting them together to get the whole.
The reciprocal part of the team was the graphic UI designers / UX folks – the right brainers – who relied on visual, nonverbal and intuitive cues, using pictures rather than words. They also generally looked at the whole picture first then the details.
So the goals of the retro:
- Help the “two sides” grok how the other side “thinks”
- Make the root causes for their current impediments and frustrations more visible
- Lay the groundwork for building more empathy
Introducing “The Empathy Toy”
The Empathy Toy from Twenty One Toys – “a blindfolded puzzle game that can only be solved when players learn to understand each other” – seemed like a great experiment to try for this situation.
Designing the Event
Oh, I forgot to mention, I had one additional challenge: The retro was scheduled for 2PM, after a team lunch, which included wine and spirits, lots of pasta, and of course sugary desserts. Every facilitator’s fantasy…. the post lunch drowsiness dip for attendees.
So before diving right into the retro proper, I planned an ice-breaker that would get people up and moving: Tribes.
If you aren’t familiar Tribes, here’s how it works.
Someone with a “speaking stick” stands up, goes to a clear spot in the room, and makes the statement:
- “All my tribe members that appreciate_______, join me here.”
Filling in the blank. Then those that the statement applies to gather around the speaker. The speaker passes the stick to a member of their ad-hoc tribe. That tribe disperses and the new speaker plays the next round…
Each speaker can choose their own related fill in the blank topic, and they vary from non-work to as work-context specific topics.
To launch the activity, I gave a few examples (good coffee, IPA beer, pinot noir), and we continued until the energy started to wane (which was well before my planned time box of 5 minutes.)
We then did a quick “So, what do you think this exercise was about? What did you learn?”
The obvious first answers were:
- It allows team members to get to know each other a little better
- It creates quick connections and some shared values
The less obvious answers were:
- The setup constrains us to binaries – either you are in the tribe or you aren’t.
- It raises awareness about multiple identities – that one can belong to more than one tribe quite easily.
- Large muscle movements help keep folks from dozing off!
Ok, on to the empathy game, the main part of this retro.
Puzzles and Blindfolds
And then I asked each team to self-select three players (1 builder, 1 guide, 1 assistant) for our first round of puzzle time.
Each three-some got two identical (except for color) sets of five puzzle pieces.
I gave them a few minutes to examine the pieces, exploring all the ways they could fit together.
The only constraint was there was to be no speaking and no naming of the pieces.
Basic Game Play – 10 minutes
After the players had exploring the shapes, the assistant then:
- Blind folded the builder and the guide (surprise!)
- Selected 3 puzzle pieces from guide’s set of 5
- Silently assembled those 3 pieces together in any shape they wanted
- Give the assembled model to the guide
It was then up to the builder to assemble his/her puzzle pieces to match what the guide had. I instructed the team that only the builder and the guide could speak during this round. (Assistant needed to remain quiet.) One instruction I did not give, and no one tried or asked, was that it was ok touch the either set of pieces.
If the builder got done before the timebox was reached, both the builder and guide could remove their blindfolds and compare the “model” to the “replica” to see how close they came.
Round Two – 10 minutes
Same general set up as round one, with new set of three players. And one change introduced: this time the assistant was permitted to answer Yes/No questions from either the guide or the builder.
Slack. Yeah, I went there. And it was really fun. No talking. Just slacking. Which included the ability to send photos… which a few teams took advantage of!
Debrief (10 minutes)
After the rounds, the Evens and the Odds rejoined to discuss what happened in their games, and to explore parallels to what happens in their day-to-day work.
My facilitator’s prompts for the debrief included:
- What were the Positives (Catalysts) that directly or indirectly support solving the puzzle?
- What were the Negatives (Inhibitors) that impeded or blocked progress?
- How did you feel with one of your senses restricted?
- Assistants, what did you see/observe?
- What instructions worked most/least effectively?
- How did communication styles change over the course of the game? Why did they change?
- Did you have any breakthroughs?
- Guides, how did you know when you were being understood?
- What were common barriers to effect communication?
- Did you jump into details or fully understand the larger whole?
The team collected their ideas, summarized below:
- Asking clarifying questions – “You said, ‘To the left.’ you mean your left, or my left?”
- Using clear “way-finding” – “Find the single dot and point it away from yourself”
- Having a shared context – “Work from the table top up”
- Developing a shared language – “The cogs with the bumpy center – let’s call that one ‘Bob’”
- Asking for help – “Hey, assistant, is the piece I’m holding the right one?”
- Lack of a shared vocabulary
- Missing a vital sensory input (vision)
- Not asking for clarification, and instead making assumptions
- Getting tunnel vision, not utilizing the assistant
- Ambiguous instructions like “towards me” or “to the right”
Variations on a Theme
A few ideas I’m toying with are:
- Sighted guide, blindfolded builders
- Single guide, multiple builders – simulates multiple clients (Android and iOS) with a common Design/UX crew.
Next time I’ll also plan to shoot some video. It would be great for the “players” to get to observe themselves, as well as to share with you.
What do you think: On the continuum of GTFO to “this might just be useful here!” where does this retro sit?
- Communication Breakdown: Left Brain vs. Right Brain
- Twenty One Toys
- Agile Techniques to Practice Empathy in your Office
Originally published on Spikes and Stories